Sex Dolls 101: The Complete Guide

I think we can all agree that just about everyone deserves love and companionship.

Unfortunately this isn’t always possible.

I’ve helped many people with trauma or other personal issues who were unable to find love the traditional way.

One thing I’ve recommended to many patients is sex dolls.

They allow you to have a young, beautiful companion that you can have sex with whenever you like.

So I decided to put together the ultimate guide to the best sex dolls for men.

It includes everything you need to know about picking, buying, using, and caring for a sex doll.

What are Sex Dolls?

Sex dolls, also known as love dolls, are basically artificial people made to provide companionship and sexual pleasure.

They’re made to resemble men and women in just about every respect.

The highest quality ones are honestly pretty incredible looking.

They get everything just right, all the way down to the shape of fingernails and the softness of nipples.

You can get a sex doll in a wide range of ethnicities, sizes, genders, and even some models made to look like elves or vampires.

The sky (and your budget) is the limit as far as sex dolls go.

Why Buy a Sex Doll?

There are a lot of reasons people buy sex dolls. For most, it’s a combination of loneliness and curiosity.

They want to experience physical and emotional intimacy but have difficulty relating to real people.

The stereotype of the fat, rich old pervert with a closet full of sex dolls couldn’t be further from the truth.

Many of the people buying sex dolls have suffered some kind of trauma or have a form of anxiety.

This makes it really hard for them to go out and establish a relationship with a partner.

A love doll lets people experience intimacy and sex without all the pressures that come from being with another person.

They can also be an incredible gift for people with mental or physical handicaps.

It’s extremely difficult for people with certain conditions to date or even meet people. In many cases a sex doll is the only chance they’ll get at physical intimacy.

That’s not the whole market of course.

Some people just enjoy how insanely realistic and sexy they are.

Or they want to live out a fantasy that isn’t possible with ‘real’ people.

The ability to get either a male or female sex doll is definitely a big draw.

The Sex Doll Buying Guide

Buying a sex doll is a lot different from buying other sex toys.

There are tons of different decisions to make on everything from the size of the doll to what kind of expression you want on its face.

Materials and Design

Sex dolls are one of the most complex sexual products on the market today.

They use precision engineering to create the most lifelike replica of the human body possible.

There are two primary materials used to achieve this:

• Silicone
• Thermoplastic Elastomer (TPE)

Silicone is tougher and more heat-resistant than TPE but it also isn't quite as soft. It still feels incredibly lifelike and has benefits all its own.

You can actually take a hot bath with a silicone sex doll.

TPE doesn’t allow that.

Silicone is also a bit more durable and easier to clean.

TPE is more absorbent and can develop issues if not thoroughly cleaned and sanitized on a regular basis.

You want to make sure you’re getting platinum cured silicone if possible.

This makes the finished product much, much softer and more touchable.

One big thing that you should keep in mind is that silicone is a bit more rigid than TPE.

A TPE doll will have that jiggly, wiggly touch in its breasts and butt that you just can’t get with a silicone doll.

One major advantage of TPE is its affordability.

You’re unlikely to find a full size silicone love doll for less than several thousand dollars.

TPE is also noticeably softer and more flesh like.

Don’t worry though, if you’re on your first doll you probably won’t be able to tell the difference.

Size and Weight

This one’s really important.

The size of a sex doll affects both its price and how you can use it.

Full sized dolls above 5 feet tall are significantly heavier than smaller dolls.

Most dolls of that size will weigh more than 90 lbs.

Can you pick up and position a 5’1” human woman easily?

If not you should consider getting a smaller sex doll.

The size isn’t the only thing that affects a doll’s weight.

Full body dolls are always going to be heavier than partial or torso dolls.

Arms and legs are heavy. Many guys find the experience just as stimulating without them.

Make sure you consider storing your doll as well. A full sized doll takes up just as much space as a person.

Most manufacturers recommend you hang your doll during longer term storage.

This prevents the material from denting or sagging because of constant pressure.

Are you willing to devote an entire closet to hanging your sex doll?

Functionality and Appearance

How you want to play with your love doll is another thing to consider. Just about every doll will allow vaginal and oral sex but do you want more than that?

You have to decide how many ways you want to play with your doll:

This includes everything from anatomically correct anal, foot jobs, handjobs, and bouncing breasts to an ass that jiggles.

Depending on what you’re willing to spend you can get some or all of these features.

Don’t forget to think beyond the nuts and bolts of it either.

What kind of expression do you want on its face?

What color should its eyes be?

You can get your doll with just about any eye color you want.

You can even get a really exotic look with something like heterochromia or cat eyes.

Do you want it to have a particular body shape?

A lot of people are surprised to discover that most sex dolls don’t look like 20-something girls in perfect physical condition.

One of the most attractive aspects of sex dolls is their realism.

Buyers love the fact that they can include real features in their dolls:

If you want a chubby girl with a big, jiggly butt that’s totally possible.

You can also get a gym bunny with a perfect six pack and a butt that just won’t quit.

The sky’s the limit.

How old do you want it to be?

These are all important questions to ask yourself before making a purchase.

Price

Sex dolls aren’t cheap.

Entry level mini dolls cost several hundred at least, while top of the line models with full customization can thousands of dollars.

Buying a sex doll isn’t like buying other sex toys.

It’s a commitment.

You have to be really sure you want this and you need to do your research.

Depending on the features and size of your love doll you should expect to pay a premium.

Types of Sex Dolls

There are honestly too many types of sex dolls to fully describe here.

I’ve picked out a few of the most popular types to discuss.

Realistic Sex Dolls

These are the best sex dolls money can buy.

They’re usually handmade and have all the hallmarks of high-quality craftsmanship.

Manufacturers of luxury sex dolls only use the finest materials and pay close attention to every detail.

Most luxury sex dolls are full sized and even come with outfits you can put on them.

Many of these will have three usable holes as well as fully articulated and posable limbs.

Their skin will feel incredibly soft and their eyes will stare up longingly at you with every glance.

You can choose either a fully custom doll or get one that perfectly resembles every inch of your favorite adult actors and actresses.

Depending on your budget you can even get one made that resembles a real person.

I’ve talked to some people who had one made of their partner, with permission, so that they could be intimate even when they were apart.

These are the best of the best, but you better be ready to lay out some serious money for them.

Find the 6 most realistic sex dolls here.

Torso and Mini Sex Dolls

If you want a sex doll but can’t quite swing a multi thousand dollar price tag, a torso or mini doll could be for you.

They have all the same sexual and anatomical features of full sized dolls in a smaller, less expensive package.

Torso dolls are pretty self-explanatory.

They have the head and torso of a full size doll but lack limbs. This can sound a bit off putting at first but in practice it really isn’t.

Some of the cheaper options will come with no head as seen in the picture here.

They can still have beautiful faces, soft sexy breasts and full luscious butts, not to mention fully anatomical holes.

You can get them either totally limbless or with thighs or arms included.

The biggest benefits of torso dolls are in their reduced price and ease of use.

Torso dolls use less materials and naturally cost less.

They’re also smaller and weigh less than full size dolls. This makes it easier to maneuver them around and move through multiple positions.

Mini dolls are a bit different.

They’re basically shrunken versions of regular sex dolls.

They start at just below full size but can get as small as just a few feet in total length.

Most mini dolls will have a full size head with a smaller torso and limbs.

Their holes are the same size as on their full sized cousins but they’re much smaller and lighter.

Like with torso dolls this makes them easier to move, use, and store.

Exotic Sex Dolls

Many of the people who buy sex dolls are looking for a partner they can’t get in real life.

For a lot of guys this comes down to wanting someone who isn’t the girl next door.

If you’ve always fantasized about having a hot Japanese girlfriend but live in small town Iowa, a beautiful, submissive Japanese sex doll could be a dream come true.

If skin tone is all you’re looking for most sex dolls are available in a wide range of tones.

You can also get a love doll with incredibly realistic features of ethnicities including:

• Japanese (review the top 5 Japanese sex dolls here)
• Latina
• African
• Scandinavian
• Chinese

Some guys take this even further.

In real life it’s impossible to love a beautiful elven warrior girl, but with a sex doll that dream can come true.

Anatomically Correct Male Sex Dolls

Guys don’t only want to have sex with female sex dolls of course.

Male sex dolls are extremely popular among gay and bisexual men as well as women.

They aren’t as prevalent as female sex dolls but there are full size, mini, or torso dolls available in a variety of styles.

The biggest difference between a male and female sex doll is of course its penis.

Male sex dolls are also generally more muscular and have a firmer feel to them than female dolls.

Most of them will still allow you to have sex with them of course.

They allow you to do either anal or oral, with the added benefit that they can pitch as well as catch.

Higher end models allow you to do things like switch out their penis or even have them give you a hand job.

You can find my top 4 male sex doll recommendations here.

Next Generation Sex Dolls

Sex dolls are great but many people have longed for a toy that can actively participate with play.

The good news is they might not have to wait much longer.

RealDoll is a pioneer with their X program, a lifelike robotic head that can move its lips and carry on a basic conversation.

Other advances in the pipeline include dolls designed to be self heating and to provide limited motion.

The first place these advances are being applied is in the actual orifices of the doll.

Having your doll’s lubed up vagina squeeze around you while pounding in from behind would add significantly to the realism.

We aren’t quite at the sex robots we were promised in the sci fi novels of our youth, but we’re getting pretty darned close.

Using a Sex Doll

So you’ve picked out the doll you want and it’s finally been delivered, now what?

Unboxing

It can be tempting to jump right in but there are a few things you should do before you get started:

First things first make sure you thoroughly inspect your new doll for any damage.

Sex dolls are a high end product but mistakes or delivery damage can still happen.

You absolutely want to find any damage before you’ve played with it as most stores won’t accept returns once a doll has been used.

Once you’re certain it’s in perfect condition you should give it a good cleaning before playing.

Better safe than sorry.

Getting Ready

Many people who buy sex dolls are looking for a lot more than something to have sex with.

That first time with your new companion should be special.

Light some candles, dress her up in a sexy outfit, and make a night of it.

Once you’re ready for the fun you should take a few basic steps:

Start by warming the doll up some. Nothing breaks the illusion like the feeling of cold TPE or silicone.

The best way to do this is with a warmed blanket placed over your doll. Let it rest underneath it for at least 15-20 minutes.

Once it’s warmed and ready to go you need to thoroughly lube up.

Only use water-based lubes with your love doll.

Silicone and oil-based lubes will damage the ultra soft surface over time, something you really don’t want.

Once that’s done you’re ready to really get into it.

Positions and Play

Depending on the type of doll you decided to go with you’ll have different options for positions.

With a fully realistic doll you can do any position you’d try with a real person.

One of the most popular options is doggy style.

High-quality sex dolls have incredibly life like butts.

They bounce, they jiggle, and they feel incredible when you slam into them.

In the same vein you should definitely try posing them up against a wall.

Standing sex is a real treat and sex dolls can stand there and take it as long as you like.

If you prefer to make tender love instead you can put them in a missionary or spooning position.

Don’t forget that a sex doll has more than just holes to play with. You can grope their breasts, squeeze their luscious butt, or even make out with them.

Into BDSM?

You can tie up your doll in all kinds of kinky positions, though I don’t recommend you try impact play.

It’s unlikely but you can damage your dolls soft skin with a crop or strap.

Cleanup and Care

Once the fun's done for the night, you’ve got a bit more work ahead of you.

Sex dolls are an investment, and you have to treat them like one.

If you have a doll with removable orifices cleanup is much, much easier.

Just pop the sleeve out of their vagina, mouth, or butt and flush it with warm water.

You should also use an approved cleaner on a regular basis to properly sanitize it.

Dolls with non removable orifices are a bit trickier.

The best thing to get is a small bulb syringe or douche. This lets you thoroughly rinse out the inside of your doll without any hassle.

Start with warm water then use a solution of soap and water for sanitation.

Another thing to keep in mind is the rest of your doll's body.

It’s recommended you wash the wig and any clothes you put it in on a regular basis.

5 Sex Dolls to Buy in 2020

Below are my top recommendations separated into various categories:

• Realistic
• Torso
• Exotic
• Male
• Mini

You will find a specific doll which I feel is the best in each category.

The Best Realistic Sex Doll

Sex Doll Genie

View these dolls on the official website: www.SexDollGenie.com

When it comes to the absolute top of the line sex doll out there the choice is easy.

This brand has taken the industry to new heights with their ultra realistic designs and extreme customization.

Key customization steps of their dolls include:

• Body type and head
• Skin and eye colour
• Choose your hairstyle
• Choose your mouth
• Breast and nipple option
• And more

SDG is the undisputed king of the sex doll manufacturers.

There are so many options that you can customize to create the exact doll you want:

The Best Torso Sex Dolls

Torso, Hips and Legs

View these dolls on the official website: www.SDG.com

If you want all the benefits of a full size sex doll without the heavy weight and large size, then a torso doll is a great option.

One option is a full sized torso with posable arms that removes the extra weight of legs.

Important features of this doll are:

• 3 feet tall.
• Made from medical grade silicone.
• Resistant to scratches and scuffs.
• Allows oral, anal, and vaginal sex.
• Extremely realistic facial features.

These types of torso dolls are built to last, able to provide years of fun and companionship when properly cared for.

Some are a modified torso doll given that they still have arms, but overall I think it’s a good call.

Having arms allows you to put your doll in a lot more positions than if it’s just a torso.

The soft silicone feels incredible to the touch and can be warmed much more easily than a similar TPE doll.

The Best Exotic Sex Doll

DS Doll Evolution With Nell Head

View this doll on the official website: SexDollGenie.com

Many of the most popular exotic sex dolls feature Japanese features and a petite, almost delicate body type.

The Evolution from DS Doll with the Nell head style definitely fits this bill.

Key features of this doll include:

• 5 feet 4 inches tall and 64 lbs total weight.
• Made from high-grade silicone.
• Allows for vaginal, oral, and anal sex.
• Modeled after a famous Japanese AV star.
• Includes free replacement parts for the life of the doll.

The Nell Evo doll is a very sexy doll made for those who’ve always wanted a Japanese girlfriend.

It has a life size body with proportional D-cup breasts and full sexual capabilities.

One of the best things about this doll are the custom options available.

You can adjust her skin tone, hair length and style, and several other options.

The Best Male Sex Doll

Jordan: Muscular Male

View Jordan on the official website: www.SDG.com

Male sex dolls are great because of how versatile they are.

Jordan is great for ladies looking for companionship or guys exploring their sexuality.

Key features of Jordan include:

• Made from soft and supple TPE.
• Allows both anal and oral sex.
• Includes a detachable 8 inch penis.
• 5 feet 4 inches tall.
• Posable steel skeleton allows lots of fun positions.

I’ll be honest here, picking Jordan for the top spot was tough.

RealDoll also makes an extremely high-quality male doll.

The biggest reason I choose Jordan was cost:

He’s barely a third of the price of an entry level male RealDoll.

Jordan has chiseled abs, an incredibly lifelike skin texture, and a boyishly handsome face.

He’s up for anal and oral sex, easy to clean, and includes a perfectly formed 8 inch penis for you to enjoy however you like.

The RealDoll is probably a bit better, but for the price Jordan beats it out for the top spot.

The Best Mini Sex Doll

Mari Doll

View this doll on the official website: OvDoll.com

One of the best things about mini dolls like Mari is how easy it is to move around.

Mari is just 3 feet 3 inches tall and is ready for any kinky position you want to put her in.

Important features of Mari are:

• Incredibly soft silicone construction.
• 3 feet 3 inches tall and very lightweight.
• Allows oral, anal, and vaginal penetration.
• Anatomically accurate limbs and head on smaller torso.

The Mari doll gives you all the potential pleasure of its larger cousins at a fraction of the cost.

It can frequently be found for under $1,000, a steal for a fully functional silicone sex doll.

The biggest benefit of mini sex dolls is the reduced weight.

Mari weighs just 26.5 lbs, making it easy to put it in all kinds of sticky situations while enjoying yourself.

Despite Mari’s small size it's still possible to enjoy every type of lovemaking.

Sex Doll Websites I Recommend

Where you buy your love doll is just as important as the doll you choose.

Different sellers specialize in different types of dolls. Some only sell products from a few manufacturers while others carry a wide range of products.

You need to make sure that they stand by their sales and are supplying legitimate products.

There have been many cases of sketchy sellers and fly by night operations selling counterfeit dolls made from low-quality and even dangerous materials.

Don’t forget to check on a sellers return policy. Most will allow you to return a damaged product that is unused but it’s always a good idea to make sure.

SexDollGenie.com

Sex Doll Genie was founded by a husband and wife team from Miami, Fl.

They were considering buying a sex doll for themselves but were shocked at the low quality sellers in the marketplace.

They set out to create the friendliest and most responsive sex doll shop on the internet.

Overall I think they’ve done a pretty good job.

Their site itself is excellent and they offer features and support not available from most other sellers.

They’re one of just a few The Doll Forum (TDF) certified sellers.

Ease of Use

Sex Doll Genie has one of the most user friendly adult websites I’ve seen.

The site itself was well done and is clearly updated frequently.

The top of the page laid out a lot of useful information and allowed you to quickly navigate to whatever type of doll you were looking for.

They also have an active social media presence on several major sites. Not something you see from just every seller.

Selection

One of the things I love most about this site is its selection.

They have over 1,300 different dolls available, covering most major manufacturers and doll types.

Their catalog includes brands like:

• IronTech
• JY Doll
• 6YE
• AF Dolls

You can easily find exactly what you’re looking for through their dropdown search bar or by navigating to category pages.

If what you’re looking for exists there’s a pretty good chance they have it.

Customer Service and Returns

Where Sex Doll Genie really shines is in how they treat their customers.

Too many love doll sellers are only interested in the sale.

As far as they’re concerned once they have your money you don’t exist.

Sex Doll Genie breaks from the pack here.

They provide a guarantee on every doll they sell.

If it arrives in a defective condition they’ll happily exchange it or offer you a refund no questions asked.

How is this different from other sites you ask?

They also offer full support and repair services on any doll they sell.

You can actually send your doll off to them to be fully repaired and returned to you.

Depending on what goes wrong they may even cover the cost of repair.

SiliconWives.com

Silicon Wives was founded in 2015 and is a relative newcomer to the market. In that time they’ve established themselves as a respectable seller of high-quality silicone and TPE sex dolls.

Ease of Use

Their website has a clean look without the cluttered toolbar look many of their competitors have.

Navigation is straightforward and I had no problems finding exactly what I was looking for quickly.

One thing I really like was their selection of how-to and FAQ’s available. They’re laid out well and covered most issues a sex doll owner would encounter.

Selection

Silicon Wives has a pretty good selection of products, though noticeably less than some other sites I covered.

Most of their selection is focused on full sized realistic dolls.

They do have a few torso products but very few mini dolls or exotic models.

Customer Service and Returns

One place they were noticeably lacking was in communication options.

The only way to get in touch with them was through email.

Most other sites I reviewed here had at least email and a phone number, with several also offering web chat or even a physical address.

They allow returns if your doll is damaged upon delivery but might not provide much support beyond that.

OVDoll.com

OVDoll is a Japanese sex doll manufacturer and distributor with offices in three continents.

They offer a wide range of products but have underwhelming customer service.

Ease of Use

One place where OVDoll shines is in their website.

A lot of thought went into its design and layout.

Overall it functions well, is easy to navigate, and has a clean appearance.

Selection

OVDoll doesn’t skimp on their selection of dolls.

They have a large selection of doll sizes going from full size to the smallest of mini dolls.

There are also many different exotic dolls, torso dolls, and other specialty products.

Customer Service and Returns

OVDoll has both a customer service email and a US contact number for any questions or concerns.

The issue I have is the amount of use you can expect to get out of it.

They have a strict return policy that doesn’t allow any refund or exchange, for any reason.

I found this interesting given that their main page has a large emblem that reads 30-day guarantee.

RealDoll.com

RealDoll.com is the official website and distribution channel of the RealDoll and RealDoll 2.0.

If you’re looking for the highest quality love doll available this is the place to get it.

Because it’s the manufacturer’s website you can request whatever customizations you like.

Let's dig a little deeper and see how it compares to other distributors.

Ease of Use

RealDoll.com has outdone themselves with the functionality and appearance of their website.

I’ve unfortunately found far too many adult product companies with barely functional sites that look like they were coded in the early 2000’s.

Not so here.

The site is beautifully presented and it’s easy to find exactly what you’re looking for without issue.

Their customization window lets you run through every body type, hair color, face, and skin tone in an interactive simulator.

You can check out your selection from every angle and get exactly what you’re looking for.

Selection

At first glance the selection at RealDoll.com would appear to be much smaller than other sites.

They only carry RealDoll products, currently made up of just a few named dolls and toys, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

The real benefit here is in the massive amount of customization available.

By buying straight from the manufacturer you can customize everything from the height and body type down to the type and color of its eyes.

You can even get really special requests like tattoos, piercings, and robotic head systems.

RealDoll.com may only have a few different doll types, but they provide an almost infinite range of customizations and special orders.

If you check out their RealDoll Wicked line you can choose from a selection of dolls made to match every tiny detail of several famous pornstars.

Customer Service and Returns

Given that it’s the main website of the most popular sex doll manufacturer in the world RealDoll.com provides excellent customer service.

You can get in touch with them on the phone, through email, and even through fax if you’re really old school.

One of the great things is you may not even have to.

Their site has a comprehensive library of help articles, advice, and basic troubleshooting.

RealDoll doesn’t allow returns except for damage during shipping.

They do offer a 30 day warranty on the skeleton of your doll.

If it breaks during that time period they’ll send you replacement parts and instructions on how to repair your doll.

SexyRealSexDolls.com

This is one of the largest sex doll sites today. They offer a large selection of dolls and have some really nice features.

One of their biggest selling points is their free and discreet international shipping on all purchases.

It doesn’t go to every country but it covers most places people are ordering sex dolls from.

They also have a very straightforward payment plan available.

Given how expensive sex dolls can be this is a feature a lot of people like.

Ease of Use

The overall site layout and usability was excellent.

The main navigation bar was well laid out and I found it really easy to get where I wanted to go.

They provide lots of helpful articles and videos covering all kinds of doll related topics.

You can learn more about the benefits of silicone vs TPE and all kinds of other subjects.

Selection

They have one of the better selections overall.

You can find lots of dolls from lots of high-quality manufacturers as well as a selection of accessories and clothes.

Doll types include:

• Ebony Dolls
• Realistic Dolls
• Mini Dolls
• Torso Dolls
• Male Dolls

And many more.

There’s a very good chance you’ll be able to find the doll you’re looking for here.

Customer Service and Returns

SexyRealSexDolls.com provides you with two ways to get in touch:

A support email and a phone number.

They’re generally available and have a pretty quick response time to emails.

The only downside I saw was that they don’t offer an automatic return policy for damage.

If your doll is damaged when you receive it you have to send them pictures and a description of the damage.

At that point they’ll review the damage and decide whether to give you a refund, a replacement or just take a small discount off what you paid for the doll.

Shipping damage is very rare and in every case I could find they took care of it immediately.

Take Your Time and Choose Wisely

Buying a sex doll is a major investment.

Once you’ve read my guide it’s a good idea to sit down and figure out exactly what you want.

Spend some time writing out the features you’re looking for and really think about what kind of appearance you’d enjoy the most.

You don’t want to purchase a mini doll only to discover you really wanted a RealDoll.

Whatever you decide to go with make sure you keep the quality markers I discussed above in mind.

Look for high-quality TPE or silicone, with a sturdy skeleton and easy to clean design.